for example, there's somebody I know that was forcibly removed from the IRC server I mostly hang out on. I check out a new IRC channel on a different network, and I find that person there. Now, ethical behaviour demands that I not breathe a word of that past because it's entirely possible the person has changed since then. And it's true I see signs of change, but I see other areas where the person hasn't changed at all. Most disconcerting is that in a privmsg session I had with this person soon after I discovered that this person was hanging out on the new channel is that the person knows of these areas that haven't been fixed and is trying to change them, but then I see examples that this person doing exactly the opposite. But yet I promised this person that I wouldn't breathe a word of this person's prior behaviour to the new IRC channel, and I won't.
Hell, that's why I'm circumnavigating now, because I know folks from said IRC channel read this, so I would appreciate it, if you know to whom I am referring, that you not breathe a name out.
The other thing I have problems with is confronting people. The person referred to above desperately needs to be told a few things. Mostly, I need to point out that I would prefer not to associate with the person in question at all. But opening a new privmsg session to do this is very difficult, because I still don't want to hurt the person in question. Yeah, I'm completely nuts.
And of course, if I can't stand this person's behaviour, then why am I hanging out in said channel? Well, because on the whole the folks there are very nice people. I don't want to lose the few friendships I have there. But I'm still aching from what said person did to me and my friends. And I don't want the cycle to repeat itself.
I don't know. I'm quite confused, and I'm kicking myself for my character traits. What a way to end the night.