But it's still a hard thing to do. And the unfortunate thing is that hard things usually happen to those who are genuinely good of heart. Because at that point there's a definite distinction between two equally bad choices. No matter what they do, there is no path of least resistance. It's a dilemma I've tried to build into my characters when I'm writing. When faced with two equally bad choices, what do they do? You learn more about a person's character than way than most other ways I can think of.
The thing is, for a manipulator and for selfish people, it's never a choice between two equally bad choices. There's always one choice that's easier on you, and fsck the other person.
*sigh* rantrantrant. That's all I use this thing for.